The Problem is... by Chel Wolverton

...when a child is ripped from their parent's arms in a horrible accident, we don’t choose empathy.

...when 49 victims are killed in a deadly attack for being exactly who they are, we don’t choose love.

...when 20 children and 6 adults die in a deadly school shooting by someone mentally unstable, we don’t choose to act. 

We choose to go through a vicious cycle of narcissism online long enough to remain “trendy” before moving on to the next thing that allows us to feel — in this we choose our collective egos.

The horror, anger, sympathy, memes of support, hashtags, prayers, thoughts, political statements, blame, excuses, celebration of the perpetrators, ignorance of the victims, blaming the victims, blaming the parents, demands for action, demands for punishment, and memes in emotional-fueled response to political statements. Finally, approbation from our friends who agree, vitriol from those who disagree, and on.

None of which do anything EXCEPT draw attention to ourselves. We choose love — of ourselves — far too often where we claim to choose compassion and empathy.

To truly relieve suffering, we must choose to truly suffer with others, to ultimately bring to life compassion when it is needed most. As a nation, we’ve become complacent in regards to our responsibility to each other. We can disagree, but that does not abdicate our responsibility to act.

It’s time to choose love. It’s time to agree that we don’t want more people to die in senseless ways and work together to find a way to prevent the senseless being possible. Talk about how to solve for love without fear - of being attacked, of losing control, or of being shut down.

Put the internet down. Instead of posting on Facebook or Twitter, reach out to someone affected face to face. Volunteer with an organization with real people in real time. Respond with compassion to someone else’s suffering, listen to what they have to say. Most importantly, begin to see the world through someone else’s eyes — because that’s how we repair our society.

“Love yourself. Then forget it. Then, love the world.” ~ Mary Oliver


a girl has a name (and a place) by Chel Wolverton

I'm writing this sitting on my couch after a tough commute home. This past weekend I moved from the Newton area to Downtown Lowell (20 miles away from Newton) in a bid to give myself some space and explore a new place. I've been here since Saturday and instantly felt at home. Why did I choose a place with such a tough commute?

That tough commute will only happen until tomorrow.

Leaving SHIFT

Almost three years ago (just shy a month), I did something I thought I'd never do. I voluntarily went to work for an agency. Not just any agency, SHIFT Communications is different. The people I knew at SHIFT before I started weren't typical, they were ballsy in their approach to PR and Marketing. Add in the the opportunity to work with my closest friend, Christopher Penn, on a day to day basis building one of the first Marketing Technology teams. Ultimately, for me, the choice to work at SHIFT was also a choice to find some space and stability.

The greatest thing I gained from my time at SHIFT is the ability to recognize my own value and smarts. Sometimes I have a tough time articulating those things, but I understand my abilities and skills better than ever. My accomplishments at SHIFT include working with CP to grow the team from 2 to 6, growing revenue from $100,000 to $1+ Million, and taking the lead on the creation of a Marketing Technology training program for all staff.

I want to extend a few last kudos for my SHIFT team: I'm thankful to Chris for believing me the best person for the job (and Todd Defren's belief in Chris and our abilities together), to Amy Lyons for her steady encouragement and advice, and to Derek Lyons for his willingness to see where our Integrated journey took us. To Amanda Grinavich for coming along for the ride in the early days and making it easy to have a right hand. To Matt Trocchio for being a steady ship in choppy seas and geeking out with me on all things GoT. To Katie McGraw-Paul for being such a wonderful sounding board, a great friend I'm lucky to have, and bringing a brilliant light/girl into my world to shower with love.

Why the change?

Almost a year ago, I was in a car accident. It was serious, but it could have been worse. This resulted in a mental kick in the pants plus personality shift for me. I embraced who I am to a greater degree than ever before. Some of that change has been outwardly obvious. Some not so much. 

Finding The Next Space

Once I realized how much had changed and that there were other things I wanted to accomplish in this lifetime I began to realize it would require letting go of the safety nets I built around my life. I began working with Jennifer Iannolo (go work with her already!) to figure out what it was exactly that I wanted. At the same time, I jumped back into the world of and embraced my love of photography. With a lot of planning and a tad bit touch and go, I made some decisions. A 3 month long take on everything I wanted to change. With tons of thinking about how much of it I really wanted at once.

(I have to throw out a huge thank you to C.C. Chapman and Justin Levy who have been constantly in my back pocket with support and smart thinking on how to get to where I want to go next.)

Then I met a woman - Laura Gassner Otting. This woman is the embodiment of sassy and brilliant. She mentioned needing someone on a new venture. I couldn't stop thinking about the opportunity to work for someone I knew I would learn from, who fiercely stands behind what she believes in, and helps others get to where they need to go. After some thought, I knew I had to jump at the chance.

Starting Monday, officially, I'll be working under the umbrella of a company Laura co-founded with Katie Pakenham - Limitless Possibility as Chief of Staff. The title is a bit of a mish-mash. I'm the marketing savvy, smartie pants doer of the team - focused on creating order from chaos. I'm going from a ballsy agency to working for one of the most ballsy people I know - I'm so very excited to get started.

(Psst, I have some additional time that I can contribute toward projects as a consultant, so call me if you need anything on the services page. ;) )

That's just the surface of what has changed for me in the last month.  From moving to moving on plus a major surgery to boot. When I'm ready for a change, I dive in and make it happen. No holds barred. I wouldn't have it any other way. 

While there are other things in the works that I'm not quite ready to share yet, I'm happy about moving forward. For now, this is more than enough to make even my head spin on its axis. I'll share more in the coming weeks, but for now, let's roll. 



Must Listen Music - February 2016 by Chel Wolverton

Sit back, get your headphones on and take a few minutes to chill to these amazing artists. Like? Have music to share? Hit me up via Twitter, Facebook or IG.

First up, we've got Lukas Graham. This one comes from the fabulous DJ Joe Bermudez and is KILLER. Let's talk about the vibes - bittersweet, upbeat, and nostalgic, Lukas writes about his version of growing up in a way everyone notwithstanding their age can relate. This is on repeat in my ears as I write this post. ALL THE FEELS.

The Wind and The Wave continues our journey of bittersweet feels with their cover of Snow Patrols' Chasing Cars. I love Snow Patrol, but here their voices are gold and makes this cover evoke the daydream of laying in bed with someone you love on a warm spring day windows open in the middle of nowhere with the world rushing by.

I'm not normally an Idol viewer, but during my trip to Cali I watched with friends and was introduced to the amazing talent that pours from Thomas Stringfellow. The only viable clip I have of him is his American Idol audition but mannnnn, his voice and style made him my instant favorite. Skip to 1:00 or so into this video to get to the good part. I hope that win or lose he finds a way to keep making music for our enjoyment.  

Enjoy? Or know someone who should be be featured here? Let me know in the comments. More music makes my world go round as hopefully these songs do for yours.

xo - Chel

3 Words to 1 for 2016 by Chel Wolverton

Bidding farewell to 2015, a year full of ups and downs. It started out rough and had an unfortunate detour in the middle, but even the detour taught me something priceless.

What I learned last year was more worth the rough patches. These past few months I've felt like Julia Roberts in Runaway Bride. You know, when she's trying eggs all the different ways possible to have them to finally figure out which way she actually likes the damn things without being influenced by her many fiancés view on the matter. I understand more about who I am than ever before, what makes up me, what I like and dislike, and what I want. Yes, I think some of it was propelled by that car accident. Oh, how lucky it was that it didn't turn out worse than it did. Even better, it opened the door to where I am now. 

While I feel like I've made significant headway. I feel there is a long way yet to go, more to explore. After all, it's more than just how I like my eggs that I'll need to figure out.

This year, rather than 3 words, I'm choosing just one because it is at the heart of everything else I've timelined out with Jennifer's help this year (if you need some guidance on where to get started, talk to her now). I've been planning for the next 6 months over the course of November and December so it's perfect timing and planning to roll into 2016 and execute.

My Word for 2016


In every aspect of my life I need a constant reminder that I only have the limits that I impose on myself. I can come up with many other words, but understanding and embracing who I am and making the plans to fulfill what I'd like to do with the knowledge is what comes next. To do that, I need to stop imposing limits on myself or letting Evil Taylor Swift (imagine the opposite of the real Taylor Swift, not sweet, not positive) do it to me inside my head.

Here's to being limitless. May you breach your own limits and find happiness on the other side. Happy New Year, loves.

Love, emotion and music as a drug by Chel Wolverton

Photo via Unsplash

Photo via Unsplash

“Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt.”

― Meša Selimović, (I think), not sure which book, but would love to read the English translation

Often what we want out of a connection with another human being isn’t at all what we get. There are beautiful moments in each relationship in which one’s goals are aligned with what the other half of a duo wants — goals, companionship, comfort, lust, to be held, love, affection and so on.

When they diverge is when discontent happens and in the spirit of love arises a question to be answered — is it worth working through the divergence together? At the risk of stating the obvious, making the choice to let go can be tough, because we genuinely care for another person. Not want to cause pain or feel pain. Sometimes the decision is forced upon us by death, then we have no choice but to deal with the relationship as it was in that moment without resolution to be gained as a pair.

In any case, Love isn’t the source of the pain. We love so eagerly as a fix to pain. Love certainly opens the door to feeling pain, but we shouldn’t weigh love down as being the source of pain. Let’s not confuse it with the hurtful moments in a relationship.

Emotion is the source of pain when tied to divergence of reality — unrealistic expectations and outcomes desired on our part when when we know they aren’t a choice a partner can or will make. Whether it be because of an unwillingness or inability to compromise/find a way forward together. Pain is what happens because we resist reality rather than making a decision seated in reality.

All of this was inspired by a friend posing the question “is music a drug?”, which led me to conclude after some thinking that our emotions are the drugs. We get punch drunk on love. We dose ourselves with pain over and over. We CHOOSE to feel each emotion. We choose pain and we choose love (and music helps elevate each of those feelings).

But if we can manage our expectations, look at what’s real — and thus avoid drowning in what we want to be true —choose to seat ourselves in reality, we find our relationships are much better as a result.